My child is a toddler who has been raised not consuming anything from an animal. I am very happy that my partner and I have always agreed on this and our child is healthy and happy. However, my family all eats meat. My child is very close to her grandmothers on both sides of her family. They are not so much the issue as her grandfather is. He eats meat at least 2 of his 3 meals every day. When we were visiting my child’s grandmother and grandfather he began eating chicken remarking that is was good. My child said “yummy chicken”. That disturbs me. We’ve talked with our daughter about the way we live, but it’s been limited to these like, “cows milk belongs to a baby cow, we like (insert plant milk) instead.”

I ask my father not to say these things around her but he does not care to understand or respect the ways we want to raise our child. He doesn’t listen to anything we say. We asked him not to give her old toys as we didn’t want her exposed to lead or other contaminants in older toys but he continues to. We ask him not to swear around our child but he does anyway.

I’m just so terrified that our child will ask to eat whatever he is eating. It makes me want to visit my mother less because of how much my father actively goes against what we say. My father has many other issues I won’t get into, but it is so frustrating to constantly be on edge around him. I want to explain to my child more but I don’t know what more she can understand at this age of what is appropriate. I know there will be immense societal pressure on my child to eat meat and she is already different in so many ways including religion, ethnicity, etc. I want her to have vegan friends her age but it’s so hard for me to make friends and I want her to have vegan examples aside from her parents. When her own family is normalizing the consumption of animals it worries me that she’ll push back in the future. I know I need to prepare my self for this but it causes me so much anxiety.

Thank you for reading.