• Poogona [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    So if I had some gay friends I could talk to them but I don't so I need education.

    This sounds like something I would not enjoy, if only because I can imagine feeling bad later for what I would perceive as shutting down someone putting themselves out there. There's nothing for it, but I have been in a moment like this and afterward it gave me a lot of insight into how fraught this kind of interaction is for women too.

    • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      Idk, if you don't swing that way then it's not the same kind of rejection, because it's not a hurdle but a wall. I think most gay guys would know not to take it personally if they did ask, though they might feel embarassed and fear alienating you.

      • Poogona [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        I believe you, but I'll admit the poor guy couldn't hide something painful about my rejection. I try to tell myself he might have just been on a losing streak but it just sucks thinking I might have ruined someone's day like that.

        Edit: I should add he wasn't a total stranger, so I guess he might have gotten his hopes up about me from afar.