I am tired of people saying my prepubescent son is their daughter’s boyfriend.
I am tired of people thinking it’s cute to make toddlers kiss each other and invade each others’ boundaries.
I am tired of people putting kids in tshirts that objectify them by calling them “studs” or “hunks” or “eyecandy” or referencing a “future hubby” or literally just printing patriarchal beauty standards on them by depicting them as a big muscle man or a curvy woman in a bikini.
I am tired of people just defaulting to assuming that all children will end up in a cishet marriage and then will have biological children, in that order, as if any deviation from that path is an unforeseeable aberration.
I am tired of people excusing literal pedophiles for religious or political reasons and then accusing queer people of being groomers.
I am tired of people creating and maintaining entire industries and sports which systemically sexualize, abuse, and exploit children with minimal oversight.
I am tired of being painfully aware of child sex trafficking happening in my area which has gone unpunished despite involvement from CPS and local authorities. And then watching people spread stereotypes about child predators which describe literally none of the people responsible.
I am tired of being looked at like a predator for being at the playground with my child, first as a man, now as a visibly queer person.
I am tired of people romanticizing my relationship while rejecting all the queer aspects of me and my partner that make our relationship healthy.
I am tired of being reprimanded for teaching my kids age-appropriate information about sex which protects them from abuse. I am tired of the person reprimanding me raising a son who will literally never understand basic female anatomy because he’s being taught it’s icky.
0.000% of Communism has been built. Evil child-murdering billionaires still rule the world with a shit-eating grin. All he has managed to do is make himself sad. He is starting to suspect Kras Mazov fucked him over personally with his socio-economic theory. It has, however, made him into a very, very smart boy with something like a university degree in Truth. Instead of building Communism, he now builds a precise model of this grotesque, duplicitous world.
I am fucking tired.
I hadn't even thought about the bullshit I'm going to hear over plainly explaining things to my kids. Fuck. I've got to remember to keep "Piss off," at the ready so I don't say anything more actionable
This is one of my personal crusades. There is no reason at all, whatsoever, not to teach kids how sex works as soon as they can talk. It's 100% . There's just this pervasive unexamined bullshit belief that knowing sex exists " harms" children in some undefined metaphysical way. When really it's just religious misogyny so deeply permeating society that it's become written on the bones of the culture. And it's enormously harmful, causing endless misery and suffering to children and adults alike.
There's one story I can remember where a six year old is explaining the symptoms of what turns out to be a uti, and the doctor's main concern is that she knows the correct terms for her reproductive anatomy and can discuss it in detail. Her parent has to reprimand the doctor several times to get him back on task; the kid has a fucking bladder infection, and is able to describe the symptoms in detail because she wasn't taught some bullshit like calling her whole reproductive system "no no area" or some shit.
It's completely unhinged. The Santa Lie is a weird tradition, but it's honestly just abuse to do a Santa Lie about sex. No one should be taught to hate or fear their own body and everyone else's. It is naked misanthropy, with plenty of misogyny in the details
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There’s another story that stuck with me. I know the whole thread is CWed for CSA, but like… probably don’t read this if it’s a big trigger for you.
CW CSA
A student told her teacher several times, “my uncle keeps eating my cookie”. It was only after the teacher heard the girl’s mom refer to her own vagina as her “cookie” that she understood what had happened.
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I’ve always let my kids guide the conversation. They had questions early and I always prefaced my answers by saying that they could stop whenever they wanted. And of course I saw them getting uncomfortable and modeled what it would look like to say they needed to stop and had them walk through it. That’s all it took. They have a healthy, comfortable, safe, and age-appropriate relationship with sex at all times and are regularly baffled by other kids not understanding basic concepts or treating body part names like curse words.
That's exactly how I'm planning to handle it. From everything I've heard most kids will ask questions when they want to know something, so you can answer their questions in very general (but not vague) terms and they'll either be satisfied or ask a more specific question. I don't anticipate any single "sex talk" so much as just, some questions that I answer will be related to sex