I don't see why anyone needs to be blamed, if this is what everyone wants. To be clear, I'm taking about small age gaps in relationships, around a few years or so. Not the large age gaps. It's something that is prevalent in every society accross the globe, that the man is the older partner and the woman is younger. Maybe it's something to do with evolution or the formation of societies and socialisation, I don't know I'm no expert. All I know is that as a man, if you try to date women older than you, even if it's just a gap of a few years, you're in for a tough time in general.
It's something that is prevalent in every society accross the globe
yes, but so is patriarchy. the sample pool is a little bit tainted. men have been taught that they own women since i honestly don't even know when, the advent of agriculture? the birth of christianity? who fucking knows, but the point is that something being normalized doesn't make it necessarily natural.
I don't know I'm no expert
now this? this i feel. i don't know shit either. luckily we're not setting the laws that dictate age gaps in relationships. this is just conversation.
if you try to date women older than you [...]
ngl this was not my experience in the slightest when i was a boy but i acknowledge that's purely anecdotal and probably its own set of issues. i will say though that yes, of course you're going to receive more societal pushback and all around have a harder time than a 50 year old dad looking for an 18 year old girl to fuck. it's not normalized for men (or masculine people in general,) to desire women older than they are, even if it's a completely normal age gap (whatever that means to you, but let's say something widely regarded as otherwise inoffensive like 3-5 years).
the advent of agriculture? the birth of christianity
it was agriculture at least the Romans literally had sexual assault classified legally as a property damage crime against the woman's husband or father and that was pre-Christianity. If anything Abrahamic religion made Europe better in that regard
society didn't make them do it, but it did train them to believe that it's acceptable
both the men in question and society as a whole share in the blame
I don't see why anyone needs to be blamed, if this is what everyone wants. To be clear, I'm taking about small age gaps in relationships, around a few years or so. Not the large age gaps. It's something that is prevalent in every society accross the globe, that the man is the older partner and the woman is younger. Maybe it's something to do with evolution or the formation of societies and socialisation, I don't know I'm no expert. All I know is that as a man, if you try to date women older than you, even if it's just a gap of a few years, you're in for a tough time in general.
i wasn't, but i understand that was not explicit.
yes, but so is patriarchy. the sample pool is a little bit tainted. men have been taught that they own women since i honestly don't even know when, the advent of agriculture? the birth of christianity? who fucking knows, but the point is that something being normalized doesn't make it necessarily natural.
now this? this i feel. i don't know shit either.
luckily we're not setting the laws that dictate age gaps in relationships. this is just conversation.
ngl this was not my experience in the slightest when i was a boy but i acknowledge that's purely anecdotal and probably its own set of issues. i will say though that yes, of course you're going to receive more societal pushback and all around have a harder time than a 50 year old dad looking for an 18 year old girl to fuck. it's not normalized for men (or masculine people in general,) to desire women older than they are, even if it's a completely normal age gap (whatever that means to you, but let's say something widely regarded as otherwise inoffensive like 3-5 years).
it was agriculture at least the Romans literally had sexual assault classified legally as a property damage crime against the woman's husband or father and that was pre-Christianity. If anything Abrahamic religion made Europe better in that regard
This is the good take.