I was led to believe by all the TV sitcoms of the 80s that I'd wake up one day in my 40s, everything would feel totally different, and then I'd take long walks and be thoughtful about stuff, buy an overpriced motorcycle and dye my hair badly. I'm solidly into my 40s and I just worry about climate collapse, becoming homeless, and my partner's health. I honestly wish that becoming less attractive was something worth worrying about.
I think the midlife crisis was something endemic to boomers honestly. Millennials seem to have already had multiple similar crises that didn't involve large purchases or infidelity. I think maybe boomers panicked that their window of becoming rock stars had ended? Or they started having empty nest syndrome with their paid off houses and their stable jobs.
Maybe it's because once their kids move out, that's the last window they had to youth culture, leaving them only with their own thoughts.
Millennials, for the most part, as far as I have known them, have a sort of entire life crisis and that's due in part to the world they were born into that continues to fuck them over.
a lot of us feel if we make it to midlife it would be a fucking miracle tbh