Reading the FAQ of this now. There's a lot I agree with (particularly the basic concept in the name) but there is some very strange stuff in here as well. Her fundamental argument seems to be that treating children any differently than an adult is fundamentally coercive.
This vegetarian question is a good example of some underlying strangeness I'm seeing: https://takingchildrenseriously.com/i-am-a-vegetarian-what-if-my-child-wants-to-eat-meat/
But there's much more on here I haven't read yet. I may make a post on c/parenting about this once I have a better grasp of what she's saying.
Totally agree. I think it sounds strange because it's an imperfect ideal, but she advertises it as so simple. Parenting isn't easy and being authoritative isn't always right but it sure is faster. If we weren't always in a hurry to get to work, school, airports, shows on time maybe we could just let them take 30 minutes to get their shoes on.
But, I do take the advice she gives as a foundation. Especially as they get older they become much easier to reason with. When I ask my kid to eat broccoli and he says no, I explain why he should eat it and if it's important to him to get enough vitamins and feels good about what he ate. Yeah it takes 15 minutes but how's he going to learn otherwise?
To give a more concrete example, we had a ton of trouble getting our kid to eat at the table. He wanted us to eat in the living room. I was raised eating at the kitchen table, but falibillism made me question it. Why eat at the uncomfortable table when we could all be sitting on the cozy couch eating food together and pulling up stuff on the tv if we wanted, or blasting music on the speakers. My 3 year old had a different perspective than me and doesn't have my built in bias.
So yeah, I took his whiney comment seriously and it's a great idea!
Reading the FAQ of this now. There's a lot I agree with (particularly the basic concept in the name) but there is some very strange stuff in here as well. Her fundamental argument seems to be that treating children any differently than an adult is fundamentally coercive.
This vegetarian question is a good example of some underlying strangeness I'm seeing: https://takingchildrenseriously.com/i-am-a-vegetarian-what-if-my-child-wants-to-eat-meat/
But there's much more on here I haven't read yet. I may make a post on c/parenting about this once I have a better grasp of what she's saying.
Totally agree. I think it sounds strange because it's an imperfect ideal, but she advertises it as so simple. Parenting isn't easy and being authoritative isn't always right but it sure is faster. If we weren't always in a hurry to get to work, school, airports, shows on time maybe we could just let them take 30 minutes to get their shoes on.
But, I do take the advice she gives as a foundation. Especially as they get older they become much easier to reason with. When I ask my kid to eat broccoli and he says no, I explain why he should eat it and if it's important to him to get enough vitamins and feels good about what he ate. Yeah it takes 15 minutes but how's he going to learn otherwise?
To give a more concrete example, we had a ton of trouble getting our kid to eat at the table. He wanted us to eat in the living room. I was raised eating at the kitchen table, but falibillism made me question it. Why eat at the uncomfortable table when we could all be sitting on the cozy couch eating food together and pulling up stuff on the tv if we wanted, or blasting music on the speakers. My 3 year old had a different perspective than me and doesn't have my built in bias.
So yeah, I took his whiney comment seriously and it's a great idea!