this was me for so long but only because i thought trans was a hyper specific medical condition that required you to be attracted to men and playing with barbies at 2 years old. there was just no info out there in the 90s and all i ever saw was some documentary about a trans womans transition from the 80s that was hyper medicalized
Friendly reminder that if you want to be a girl you can just be a girl. The deep state doesn't want you to know this but you can actually change your gender
goes for anything, too, comrades
life is short and theres no rule against wearing a cape to the grocery store you can do it literally nobody is stopping you if you like to talk like a victorian chimney sweep just fucking do it
I'm so tired of gender. Not even in an enby or agender sense I'm just so exhausted from constantly interrogating myself to figure out who I am. My therapist has started to give me resources on how to treat it a little more playfully and less doom and gloom so hopefully that will help
like im not gonna take testoterone
Obviously you've thought about it more and know yourself better than me, but it's still an option! One of my friends finally got on T like a year ago and they basically just took it until they got a lot of the physical changes they wanted and then stopped (at least for now, I think it was partly not wanting to go further with some physical changes and partly not being able to balance both second puberty and mental health issues).
They said they get correctly gendered way more now in public and finally picked a new name and stuff too so overall it's been a very good change I think.
I can't talk too much though because I am so far from going on estrogen even though it would probably be great
sorry. I guess that's more of a conversation for a queer specific comm or like offline with a trusted friend.
Anyhow I hope you have a good day and things work out in a way you're happy with in the long term.
I want my egg to crack but society is so cruel. The best i can do is live in my imagination and disassociate
If you're trans or not you should totally experiment! So long as you have somewhere safe, you can try on girlie clothes, paint your toenails, wear a bralette, etc. Or whatever you would like your gender presentation to be. Even if you're not trans, going through questioning and experimentation is probably good for you (makes you cis+ we love the cis+).
For me I always wanted to be able to wear a sundress. I got one but the do
when I see myself.Have you tried a wig? I don't suffer much dysphoria (being genderfluid) but the euphoria a wig gives me as a woman is
I don't know your natural hair situation of course, but I lost that genetic lottery so putting it out there what helped me a ton. Now they're another accessory I can have fun with.
A cheap synthetic can help with some quick affirmation but human hair really is such a better choice and there's plenty of affordable lace fronts on Amazon these days ($50-200 depending on length).
cheap synthetic can help with some quick affirmation but human hair really is such a better choice
Cheap, synthetic, obviously fake technicolor wigs are the peak aesthetic and i will die on this hill.
Aesthetically, absolutely! But I dunno if it's chin stubble or something else but synthetic wigs stick to my face something fierce. I can't stand that constant tickle and itchiness and otherwise discomfort, natural hair doesn't do this to me.
something that I think people should think and talk about more is that if you go to an informed consent clinic for hrt you can just get hormones for gender dysphoria without it being more specific than that. so like you don't need to make the big commitment of "transitioning" and "becoming a woman". you can just take HRT and see if you like how you look/feel in 6months to a year and decide if you want to take it further than that, keep it at that point or just stop taking them.
the fact that this is such a common experience makes me doubt basically everything I believe about the fluidity and nonbiological roots of gender
Is it?
I've never experienced that nor seen any cis without some degree of gender fluidity mention that experience.
Then why would it being common among people who demonstrate the the fluidity and nonbiological roots of gender make you doubt the fluidity and nonbiological roots of gender?
Gender isn't real. You can be whatever you want. No one can gatekeep you because there are no gates. You can't be wrong about your identity because it just describes how you feel
