When they say it they’re always seem to mean it as a compliment but I kind of get offended because of the connotation behind the term ‘nice guy’. And in the back of my head there’s that suspicion that they could possibly be making a dig at me.

I dunno, I feel like in the West being called a nice XX denotes that you’re weak, or insecure, or unattractive.

  • Kuori [she/her]
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    1 year ago

    don't assume people have negative intent towards you without reason - reason here being an unambiguous sign that they don't like you

    sure, maybe everyone is secretly taking shots at you, but probably not, and you're gonna be a lot happier taking people at face value when they're being complimentary than you will be looking for the hidden slight behind every friendly remark

    • WhatDoYouMeanPodcast [comrade/them]
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      1 year ago

      Assumptions are for sophisticated adversaries while you're trying to underhandedly do something of international financial importance. Not really for casual conversations

      • Kuori [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        that's a good way to put it too. honestly overthinking shit is almost always the wrong move, unless you're in something high-stakes like what you outlined