idk I just tried to do what I could to semi anonymize it while still gripe about it and give an opportunity for someone to not read about it, idk what else I coulda done other than say nothing :/
I don't know what, if anything, should be done, but I also don't see how a rule that didn't exist when that happened is a factor.
yeah I wasn't trying to say whatever rule change happened was a factor, I just thought to mention it because of the part I quoted from the OP because idk when else, if ever, it'd be appropriate to mention. I don't want to make a post about it y'know
This comm is ultimately 95% just charity for people in our little online community. I still think that's a good thing on the whole, but I think we all would prefer if it could be a more structured form of aid
I mean I agree, this place is a truly bright light in an otherwise bleak present, and although I'm not in a position to really help out others I am so grateful to see the help that's been given
I just really wish in this case that money could have gotten this person into a better situation for at least a month or two
I just really wish in this case that money could have gotten this person into a better situation for at least a month or two
Yeah, I'm sure they wished for that too. Idk what griping does to help them or anyone else is all, besides make them feel bad. A one time cash infusion is good but its not enough to overhaul a life, to overcome all the barriers put in front of a person. I don't really have a point here I guess.
Edit: EelBolshevism put it better above.
If you needed that money, you are free to ask for support as well. If you don't need it, then why do you care where it went? its not your money nor are you seeking similar donations. Straight up if I became homeless I'd be fucked. I'd probably just die. I have like every leg up in the world but I still can't kick any of my bad habits even when they're self destructive. If I got an influx of money I'd 100% spend it on fast food or something. And people would judge the fuck out of me for it. I do more indulgent shit than that now, but nobody judges me because I didn't have to beg for that money, I work a job. But I don't deserve this any more than anyone else, I'm stuck in the same mental rut but with different life circumstances. And so unless/until there's a program that's going to care for homeless people outside of capitalism, giving them shit is a standby to keep them afloat at least, and if they are lucky, maybe a leg up and out (but that can't be an expectation, they have to be ready to change and its pretty hard to get your shit together when you don't have reliable food and shelter)
it's just that it was like a lot of fuckin' money? and
100% spend it on fast food or something
literally years worth of that???
like I don't blame someone for spending on vices, I am just saying that yes, here, I don't think this person was the best steward of $4k+ dollars if it evaporated in a week, which is the basis of what I originally quoted and replied to
Hope this helps as like an insight, but this person your talking about clearly lives amongst some kind of irl community of other unhoused people. No one suddenly smokes up even $1000 dollars worth of meth in three weeks, so get that thought out of your head if anything like that was on your mind. It's not a stretch to imagine a lot of it going toward others in their offline life. For unhoused people, these communities are very transitory in that people appear and disappear fast, but they all have the same solidarity from being unhoused. Multiple times this user has mentioned helping out other unhoused people with money donated.
I would be very careful using the word scammer this lightly. And if this actually even is storyofrachel (I have not personally seen the evidence of this yet, but I do admit this would be very uncanny similarity if this were just a coincidence).
No one else who sent money in small amounts could have been deceived because this money was sent on the basis that this user is homeless, and has unmet basic needs that money can help them fulfill. This is true regardless of anything else this user may have lied about or did under different accounts.
The queerphobic comments made by storyofrachel that originally got her banned are disappointing and, it would be unfortunate to learn this is the same user. But remember this is a young, unhoused, trans person themself. Those comments were made years ago, and nothing like that has ever happened again since. I'm personally willing to forgive them, but I understand anyone who else who is not. But since this is all speculation, it would be unfeasible to make a case for getting them on ban evasion.
Ultimately none of that makes them a scammer, though. They are a genuine member of Hexbear and I have seen them posting normally for at least six months under their current account.
EDIT: Almost forgot to address the $4000, lol. If anyone was scammed, it was the person who sent this all at once. That was just one donation, and we don't have anyone coming out claiming they were scammed. Without someone reporting they were scammed, it's hard to make the case that this was a scamming. That's why I think this whole incident should just be shelved for now.
idk I just tried to do what I could to semi anonymize it while still gripe about it and give an opportunity for someone to not read about it, idk what else I coulda done other than say nothing :/
yeah I wasn't trying to say whatever rule change happened was a factor, I just thought to mention it because of the part I quoted from the OP because idk when else, if ever, it'd be appropriate to mention. I don't want to make a post about it y'know
I mean I agree, this place is a truly bright light in an otherwise bleak present, and although I'm not in a position to really help out others I am so grateful to see the help that's been given
I just really wish in this case that money could have gotten this person into a better situation for at least a month or two
Yeah, I'm sure they wished for that too. Idk what griping does to help them or anyone else is all, besides make them feel bad. A one time cash infusion is good but its not enough to overhaul a life, to overcome all the barriers put in front of a person. I don't really have a point here I guess.
Edit: EelBolshevism put it better above.
If you needed that money, you are free to ask for support as well. If you don't need it, then why do you care where it went? its not your money nor are you seeking similar donations. Straight up if I became homeless I'd be fucked. I'd probably just die. I have like every leg up in the world but I still can't kick any of my bad habits even when they're self destructive. If I got an influx of money I'd 100% spend it on fast food or something. And people would judge the fuck out of me for it. I do more indulgent shit than that now, but nobody judges me because I didn't have to beg for that money, I work a job. But I don't deserve this any more than anyone else, I'm stuck in the same mental rut but with different life circumstances. And so unless/until there's a program that's going to care for homeless people outside of capitalism, giving them shit is a standby to keep them afloat at least, and if they are lucky, maybe a leg up and out (but that can't be an expectation, they have to be ready to change and its pretty hard to get your shit together when you don't have reliable food and shelter)
it's just that it was like a lot of fuckin' money? and
literally years worth of that???
like I don't blame someone for spending on vices, I am just saying that yes, here, I don't think this person was the best steward of $4k+ dollars if it evaporated in a week, which is the basis of what I originally quoted and replied to
Hope this helps as like an insight, but this person your talking about clearly lives amongst some kind of irl community of other unhoused people. No one suddenly smokes up even $1000 dollars worth of meth in three weeks, so get that thought out of your head if anything like that was on your mind. It's not a stretch to imagine a lot of it going toward others in their offline life. For unhoused people, these communities are very transitory in that people appear and disappear fast, but they all have the same solidarity from being unhoused. Multiple times this user has mentioned helping out other unhoused people with money donated.
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I would be very careful using the word scammer this lightly. And if this actually even is storyofrachel (I have not personally seen the evidence of this yet, but I do admit this would be very uncanny similarity if this were just a coincidence).
No one else who sent money in small amounts could have been deceived because this money was sent on the basis that this user is homeless, and has unmet basic needs that money can help them fulfill. This is true regardless of anything else this user may have lied about or did under different accounts.
The queerphobic comments made by storyofrachel that originally got her banned are disappointing and, it would be unfortunate to learn this is the same user. But remember this is a young, unhoused, trans person themself. Those comments were made years ago, and nothing like that has ever happened again since. I'm personally willing to forgive them, but I understand anyone who else who is not. But since this is all speculation, it would be unfeasible to make a case for getting them on ban evasion.
Ultimately none of that makes them a scammer, though. They are a genuine member of Hexbear and I have seen them posting normally for at least six months under their current account.
EDIT: Almost forgot to address the $4000, lol. If anyone was scammed, it was the person who sent this all at once. That was just one donation, and we don't have anyone coming out claiming they were scammed. Without someone reporting they were scammed, it's hard to make the case that this was a scamming. That's why I think this whole incident should just be shelved for now.