I just live my life assuming everyone will immediately know that I'm trans. It makes it way more fun when they don't. I also live somewhere where being trans hasn't come with many disadvantages so I have the luxury of being openly trans.
I spent years obsessing about passing, but it was deeply unhealthy. I have really inaccurate self-perception so even letting myself care about it caused massive amounts of stress over every aspect of my appearance.
If I could just be cis, or just look cis, I would still take that option though. Not because of external societal forces, but because I am a maelstrom of dysphoria and dysmorphia and I think it would shut my brainworms up a bit.
i share a lot of those feelings and sometimes i wonder if it would ever be enough for me. maybe it's good that i have to eat shit sometimes because i think i would be a terror if i never had to encounter any sort of hardship
I just live my life assuming everyone will immediately know that I'm trans. It makes it way more fun when they don't. I also live somewhere where being trans hasn't come with many disadvantages so I have the luxury of being openly trans.
I spent years obsessing about passing, but it was deeply unhealthy. I have really inaccurate self-perception so even letting myself care about it caused massive amounts of stress over every aspect of my appearance.
If I could just be cis, or just look cis, I would still take that option though. Not because of external societal forces, but because I am a maelstrom of dysphoria and dysmorphia and I think it would shut my brainworms up a bit.
i share a lot of those feelings and sometimes i wonder if it would ever be enough for me. maybe it's good that i have to eat shit sometimes because i think i would be a terror if i never had to encounter any sort of hardship