I know I've made a few comments talking about my relationship issues, but tonight they got to an all time worst. I'm not with my person anymore, she is my ex now and I've never been happier that she's my ex. She's talking about surrendering my nephew (her nephew I should say, not related to me) to social services because she's "tired of raising someone else's kid" like I didn't just spend my teen years doing exactly that for her. She has this idea that he's super bratty when he's really just being a normal fucking kid, and it's so disturbing to me. She's returning the PS4 she bought for his birthday while he's gone at grandma's.
She's currently pissed at me because I called her out for never being there for the kids (always passed out on extra methadone/liquor, or just note home), and wants me to apologize for making her feel bad. She wants to try to say I was being manipulative by mentioning that the kids miss her. She now believes that the kids didn't miss her and just missed her for her money.
The worst part about all of it for me is that I'm not going to be here to back the kids up anymore. She is going to be all they have after I leave, and I'm having a really hard time with it. Sorry for the rant. I really want to drink right now but I'm writing this out instead.
She's returning the PS4 she bought for his birthday while he's gone at grandma's.
I can't stand shit like that. It's so common for parents to think that their kids own nothing and have no right to own anything, and I'm not even sure I can totally articulate (or understand) the consequences of that. But it's so fucked.
You can't just take back a gift. The thing you gave is no longer yours.
As a parent I can't even imagine what it must be like to go through something like this. This was gutwrenching to read, and I'm so sorry.
Yeah it's really fucking with me. It's really fucking with me. I love those kids like they're my own and always have, my Hexbear posting is proof that I've been an extremely present step (step) parent. But I'm not related to them whatsoever. I have no grounds to fight for them, I'm a schizophrenic 23 year old, I can barely even watch after children without severely neglecting myself. I can't make my life better unless I essentially leave them behind, and it's absolutely breaking me right now.
sorry you're going through this but glad that you made (what sounds like) the best, healthiest decision for yourselfThat's just awful. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.
I don't want to elaborate too much because I don't want to be presumptuous, so I'll just mention this: I have seen many cases where neglectful and self-interested parents eventually pawn them off on people that do care about the kids, so if the kids are your main concern there is a chance (the likelihood of which I can't estimate) of still caring for their needs or even eventually becoming a guardian. But I don't know the situation or you so I apologize if this is presumptuous or if my mentioning it bothers you.
PS I do recommend personally telling the kid(s) that you care about them no matter what the ex says about you them and that you are still a safe person for them. This will be good for you and for them.
Sorry for the late response. I ended up texting the kid that can talk. I told him that me and his Auntie aren't friends anymore so I'm not going to be around, but I still love him
That's a tough situation. I'm glad you were able to send that message!
She's talking about surrendering my nephew (her nephew I should say, not related to me) to social services because she's "tired of raising someone else's kid" like I didn't just spend my teen years doing exactly that for her.
The worst part about all of it for me is that I'm not going to be here to back the kids up anymore. She is going to be all they have after I leave, and I'm having a really hard time with it.
Is you adopting them not an option?
