• SoylentSnake [he/him, they/them]
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    2 months ago

    You should be smiling

    Mostly a good system imo but this one is case-by-case. Most success i had pics-wise was when i stopped trying to get a smiling pic of me that looked good and not forced and just put a naturalistic looking selfie with a neutral (even slightly broody) expression as my first picture. a lot of this depends on your overall vibe though - idk if this is actually possible but i feel like i am Visibly A Sensitive Softboy so it has more that aura and less serial killer vibes. and some of my follow-up pictures show me havin a bit more fun. with a less boyish face than mine this might be tougher to pull off. but unless you can get someone to snap a really good candid smiling pic, smiles can look v forced and pained in a static photo.

    oh also i don't know if you mentioned, but if you have a pet and have a cute pic of u and ur pet as a guy absolutely throw that bad boy in the rotation - shows you have a heart and can keep another living thing alive (sadly the bar is that low for fellxs dating ladies).

    and YMMV on t * nder vs h * nge, they have different vibes/niches. i got a lot more matches with baddies of my type on t * nder but way more flakes who didn't even wanna have a convo let alone meet up. h * nge my match rate was pretty damn low (maybe this is insecurity talking but i wonder if mandatory height listing accounts for that since im p short), BUT i got my head and shoulders best match there which might be progressing into something serious rn so take that for what its worth.