It makes me feel odd. I feel like I never have light crushes or just a slight interest in getting to know someone better. Once my heart starts singing for someone, it will sing the loudest that it can.
I confessed to my darling 💚 the feelings that I have for her about a week ago, and she took it very well. She is also receptive to the intensity of my feelings. A bit ago, I spilled out this cringy text to her about me imagining my future and rest of my life with her, including marriage, and she found it incredibly cute.
As expected, she wouldn't say she's thinking that far ahead herself, but I understand that is the norm for most people. Despite this, she's very empathetic to the fact that I'm a weirdo who feels this intensely very early on. I'm also self-aware that this makes my thought process rather broken.
I'm weird in a lot of ways actually 😔✊
I'm not sure if it's a neuro-divergent thing but it usually takes me years to get over people.
Well, I'm very much neurodivergent, and sometimes I feel distressed when I'm talking to someone who isn't as romantically intense as me, but then I take a step back and realize that it's normal for people to take time to build strong romantic feelings. The confession to her went great, and we're only a week in. She still keeps me smiling!
I can be another data point for that, very rarely develop feelings for someone but when I do it takes years for all of it to pass.
Having such strong affection for another is quite a beautiful thing. I'm happy to hear that you have found such happiness in your life. I always feel heartened whenever I hear about good things like that happening to folks. 💛
Real. I can’t imagine my impulsive “rushing” could end well like that. Good luck.
Hi! I used to experience attraction in this pattern and it was very destructive for me. Like I would have these whirlwind romances where my partner would be swept up in the intensity of my feelings only for us to find that we had not build a strong enough foundation for that level of intensity once the novelty wore off.
What you're describing about having a fantasy life with this person sounds a lot like me and I found the label 'limmerence' for it. It's where the image you construct of your love interest becomes more real than their immanent, actual personhood.
This is not to say that you should not love love or avoid connections with others, but it is important to reflexively build that bridge between the fantasy and the real person you are in relationship with. Good luck!
