So I just had a rather breakthrough therapy session that's making me really question my sexual orientation. So far as I've always thought, I've been straight. I'm a guy currently married to a straight woman. I realized I have deep romantic feelings for a male friend of mine. But here's the thing, I've never felt this way about other guys. I've never looked at guys the same way I've looked at girls. Never felt the desire to watch gay porn. I had an opportunity to hook up with a guy once when I had a threesome with him and his girlfriend, but didn't want to. Yet when my friend came to visit recently, I felt a deep romantic, and even physical, attraction to him. Is it possible to be gay just for a single person?

Idk why but it wasn't easy for me to write this up. But figure I should start trying to figure this stuff out. I'm feeling really confused right now and could use some insight from my LGBTQ comrades.

  • eduardog3000 [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    At that point at least for myself, I start wondering if gender matters to me at all, or if its simply the level of personal connection to the person.

    This is usually considered the main difference between bisexual and pansexual, so you could say you're pan.

    • cpfhornet [she/her,comrade/them]
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      4 years ago

      Yeah and I guess that's something I really haven't explored, as I'm in a committed relationship at the moment. Maybe I can do some reading and see if I can get some clues that way.