So I just had a rather breakthrough therapy session that's making me really question my sexual orientation. So far as I've always thought, I've been straight. I'm a guy currently married to a straight woman. I realized I have deep romantic feelings for a male friend of mine. But here's the thing, I've never felt this way about other guys. I've never looked at guys the same way I've looked at girls. Never felt the desire to watch gay porn. I had an opportunity to hook up with a guy once when I had a threesome with him and his girlfriend, but didn't want to. Yet when my friend came to visit recently, I felt a deep romantic, and even physical, attraction to him. Is it possible to be gay just for a single person?
Idk why but it wasn't easy for me to write this up. But figure I should start trying to figure this stuff out. I'm feeling really confused right now and could use some insight from my LGBTQ comrades.
Hey, welcome to the club. I only came 'out' to myself as bi when I was in a committed, monogamous relationship. Hell, I still spend a lot of time wondering what that means, if anything.
It's possible to feel feelings for anyone - I know I have a sexual attraction to men, but due to some past abuse can't trust them for shit and couldn't imagine being in a relationship with one (never had male friends, etc.)
Don't stress so much on the label, or on what it means. Don't ignore it, by any means, I found identifying as at least 'not-straight' did wonders for my therapy and my outlook in life. Just don't get bogged down on a specific term and let yourself be yourself.