You'd have to be incredibly obtuse to see such a thing as a compliment. It sounds backhanded and almost like she's negging him. Like you'd have to consider men as emotionless robots with no deeper feelings or thought to see this as compliment. Oh wait, that's how society sees men! And you'd have to know nothing about male gender roles and expectations to not see how this could be insulting. Imagine wanting to spend the rest of life with someone (in this case a man), and knowing this little about their gender identity. And I say this as someone that's dated men. I don't know, maybe this is all incredibly obvious to me as a man or something, because I cannot see how that would be a compliment.
The way it could be interpreted as a comliment is that fwb or hookup is too shallow and she wouldn't be able to keep it at that level. But it is very badly worded if so. Just say "You're the kind of man I would like to marry" instead, adding in the fwb and hookup stuff before adds nothing to the compliment.
Are you really not seeing the issue? This could easily be interpreted as "I don't find you physically attractive", even if it wasn't intended. Who in the world wants to hear that from their partner? It also could easily be interpreted as negging. Are people not allowed to feel aggrieved by that?
Then if she literally didn't then y'all have done impressive some mental gymnastics to arrive at the conclusion of "she thinks he isn't attractive" lmao
That really is not the part of the comment that's in question as being hurtful. It is the preceding, "I would not fuck you". There is still an understanding that they would fuck in the context of knowing each other, etc. But is it really not just a little bit not great to hear your partner say something that amounts to, "If you were just like somebody who meant nothing to me and I was evaluating in physical terms, I wouldn't hit that shit"? And I'll reiterate, I don't think that was the intended meaning, certainly not the intended main point. But, as continues to be demonstrated, there are a whole fuck lot of men who would interpret this remark as calling them ugly.
She literally says he wouldn't be a FWB to her, the implication being that she's not attracted to him in that way. If this guy came back and said "I listened to that Jimmy Soul song and I realized that you could really make me happy for the rest of my life so let's go for it" would the expectation be that she's cool with that?
How is that an implication? She says he's worth more than a fwb, all that extra shit I have no idea where y'all are getting from cause she never said he wasn't attractive
Naw people have said "it's easily interpreted" and "I don't see how people don't see it's backhanded" and y'all keep implying she said he wasn't attractive, fuck are you on?
You'd have to be incredibly obtuse to see such a thing as a compliment. It sounds backhanded and almost like she's negging him. Like you'd have to consider men as emotionless robots with no deeper feelings or thought to see this as compliment. Oh wait, that's how society sees men! And you'd have to know nothing about male gender roles and expectations to not see how this could be insulting. Imagine wanting to spend the rest of life with someone (in this case a man), and knowing this little about their gender identity. And I say this as someone that's dated men. I don't know, maybe this is all incredibly obvious to me as a man or something, because I cannot see how that would be a compliment.
The way it could be interpreted as a comliment is that fwb or hookup is too shallow and she wouldn't be able to keep it at that level. But it is very badly worded if so. Just say "You're the kind of man I would like to marry" instead, adding in the fwb and hookup stuff before adds nothing to the compliment.
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How? She literally says he's worth more than a fwb and that's insulting to you lmao?
Are you really not seeing the issue? This could easily be interpreted as "I don't find you physically attractive", even if it wasn't intended. Who in the world wants to hear that from their partner? It also could easily be interpreted as negging. Are people not allowed to feel aggrieved by that?
No, I am not seeing that cause she didn't say it nor imply it lmao so I don't see how you are? "Easily interpreted" is wild.
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LMAO telling me to reread something when you're saying she said things she didn't is some crazy work
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And I think your interpretation is incorrect? Be better.
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If someone said to you "you're not someone I'd like to hook up with", would that be more of a compliment or an insult to you?
Do you stop having sex when you get married or..?
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Then if she literally didn't then y'all have done impressive some mental gymnastics to arrive at the conclusion of "she thinks he isn't attractive" lmao
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LMAO at "straightforward explanations".
"I'd spend my life with you" means "I don't find you attractive".
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That really is not the part of the comment that's in question as being hurtful. It is the preceding, "I would not fuck you". There is still an understanding that they would fuck in the context of knowing each other, etc. But is it really not just a little bit not great to hear your partner say something that amounts to, "If you were just like somebody who meant nothing to me and I was evaluating in physical terms, I wouldn't hit that shit"? And I'll reiterate, I don't think that was the intended meaning, certainly not the intended main point. But, as continues to be demonstrated, there are a whole fuck lot of men who would interpret this remark as calling them ugly.
She literally says he wouldn't be a FWB to her, the implication being that she's not attracted to him in that way. If this guy came back and said "I listened to that Jimmy Soul song and I realized that you could really make me happy for the rest of my life so let's go for it" would the expectation be that she's cool with that?
How is that an implication? She says he's worth more than a fwb, all that extra shit I have no idea where y'all are getting from cause she never said he wasn't attractive
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Naw people have said "it's easily interpreted" and "I don't see how people don't see it's backhanded" and y'all keep implying she said he wasn't attractive, fuck are you on?
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I'm engaging, she is being LITERAL, so keep repeating yourself.
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