It is victim blaming, we are not the reason homophobia exists or that people become extremely homophobic. It is not oppressed people that cause their own oppression, we don’t in some way “deserve” it.
Some aspects of the identity of sexuality may be related to physical and things we cannot control, but at the end of the day it is an identity. If they do not see themselves as gay, they are not. It is not for you to assign an identity to someone, even someone you don’t like. Even if someone might identify as gay outside of these power structures, in here they aren’t. Even if they would be gay, they participate in our oppression because being straight is beneficial to them, not because they “are secretly gay”. If they did homophobia because they were “ashamed” it wouldn’t be helping so many of them get into positions of power
This shit is rampant in lib spaces, and it drives me nuts. Every time a chud does or say something anti-queer, I see libs joke about how they must be having secret gay orgies, and when someone points how problematic that is they see nothing wrong with it.
And then, whenever one of those privileged chuds turn out to be gay, libs act all smug and feel vindicated by it, using it as evidence for their fucked up repression theory while lacking any understanding of class interests, power dynamics, and how oppression works.
They do it with making gay sex a punchline too and it fucking infuriates me to no end that they don't seem to ever grasp how awful it is
If you ever point out their memes about Trump having gay sex with Putin is homophobic, they'll fucking fall over themselves to assure you that no no, they're not homophobic, but Trump/Putin/whoever else they're targeting is and so insisting they're gay is gonna make em soooo mad (even with a less than 0% chance of them seeing or caring)
New bit idea: every problematic gay person we start insisting they're secretly het and trying to repress their affinity for terrible relationships/becoming their parents.
Kevin Spacey definitely has repressed het energy
"haha u gay bcuz u homophobe"
"Can we maybe not use that as an insult, since it plays into their preconceived notion that 'homosexuality itself is demeaning?' Maybe just call them an asshole?"
"no"
Seriously, it's not hard to deride people without insulting marginalized groups or using slurs