I shouldn't pass which is fine but on the rare occasion I do, it's always a white person who lives in a place without many east asians
The last white liberal I tried to befriend unironically told me I was so lucky to be Asian because I naturally already look more feminine than white transfems (like her)
im a SEA trans woman living in australia - there's been a lot of times where I feel like I can pass better/get away with less because of the fact that most people around me don't have a sense of like what to look for if they were trying to clock me. tbh I also don't know if anyone around here can even tell what race I am beyond just vaguely southish asian and foreign
I dont know about hurt, but the flipside is that I've always found it harder to feel comfortable in my own body in different ways - i'm plus size, and having grown up in white culture I keep finding myself judging my body based on white beauty standards, which itself feeds into dysphoria. it's something I'm trying to work on, but it's definitely hard