I shouldn't pass which is fine but on the rare occasion I do, it's always a white person who lives in a place without many east asians
The last white liberal I tried to befriend unironically told me I was so lucky to be Asian because I naturally already look more feminine than white transfems (like her)
I'm an asian transfem. For the record I've only very recently been actively transitioning, but not long ago I would get "misgendered" as female despite presenting as a male with long hair, which isn't exactly the same as passing but whatever. Because of that, my perspective may be incomplete but I'm bored so I will give it anyway, just with the disclaimer you just read:
I actually don't mind that my physical traits may help me pass as female. It is what it is, you take what you can get. Though I will say I do find it strange and fetishy for a white person to think my feminine traits comes from something inherent in asianness; I have many cis male relatives who are just as masculine as any other american male.
As for your "friend", I would definitely not be comfortable around a person who thought there were traits like that inherently related to race, and would not remain friends with them
Oh yea I don't talk to that woman anymore
And thanks for sharing your thoughts on this 💜