[CW: Discussions of Transphobia/Unsolicited Sexual Behavior]

A "leftist feminist" who disagreed with something I said accused me of having "male privilege" even though she knows I'm transfeminine. She said that "all male people have male privilege," with the term "male" there including transfeminine people. To do some harm reduction, she said "I didn't say anything about your gender, just your maleness."

What's really the kicker is that, even if you like to use this awful "sex and gender are different things" as a means of trying to have one foot on the transphobe side and another foot on the trans ally side, the idea of transfeminine people having male privilege from a systemic point of view is just deeply unserious.

I lost my family, got called queerphobic slurs by them in the process, dealt with extended periods of joblessness while also fearing the potentiality of being homeless with basically no support but Hexbear, and have gone through various other abuses because of my transfeminine identity, including uncomfortable sexual scenarios with men, and I have male privilege?

Well, let's not forget that she was also anti-cracker-aktion

  • BeamBrain [he/him]
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    22 days ago

    Sounds like you had the bad fortune to run into a TERF.

    • Angel [any]
      hexagon
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      22 days ago

      I feel like that TERFs aren't usually the kind to hide behind the "gender/sex distinction" shit in this manner (y'know, "adult human female"), but I guess they could be. I find that it's something that a lot of """"well-meaning"""" libs will do to make the concept of trans people sound more digestible for conservatives.

      • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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        22 days ago

        From what i've seen it seems fairly common in the UK, at least among lib transphobes. Post-purge Labour uses this shit a lot.

      • Findom_DeLuise [she/her, they/them]
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        22 days ago

        Oh, some of them certainly do. Julia Serano goes into it repeatedly in Whipping Girl -- at the end of the day, it's a combination of cis gender entitlement and oppositional sexism. Anyway, down with cis.