"Age gap discourse" is a form of social violence that attempts to wrest away the hard won sexual agency of women by infantilizing a woman, removing all of her agency, portraying her as a literal child, and portraying her consensual relationships as sexual violence. And all this is done, not in private by concerned friends, but in front of the world. "Age gap discourse" is dragging a woman through the mud of the town square yelling "this child is being sexually abused!" And pretending it's feminism.
God, I'm so glad about the Hexbear position on this session. I had an ex, "socialist" who always said any woman younger than like 30 was a "child" whenever it came to relationships or sex. We were together like 8 years and it would come up occasionally but any arguments I would make against it were just labeled "anti-feminist" or taking advantage or whatever. Of course when she was younger she could make the same choices but now other women couldn't because of power dynamics.
I wouldn't be surprised if she was @LiberalSocialist@hexbear.net.
wrest away the hard won sexual agency of women by infantilizing a woman, removing all of her agency
After 20 some years of reading blogs, personal essays and other anecdotal accounts of personal trauma, I've honestly come to the conclusion that people don't have agency, or if they do, they don't want it. Especially when it comes to sex.
Turns out humans are messy idiots who often choose to do things they almost immediately regret and often express a desire for society or some other "big other" to police their behaviors to prevent them from making decisions they regret. Most people do express this desire that literally because it runs up against our fetishized concept of "freedom", but I think it's a desire we all have and that all the "age gap" stuff is an manifestation of it, we want society to police our sex more so we don't consent to things we end up regretting.
One of the episodes is him showing his massive surveillance system, the screen behind him is people doing various sex things, I think, and saying it's setting people free. I forget the nuances.
"Age gap discourse" is a form of social violence that attempts to wrest away the hard won sexual agency of women by infantilizing a woman, removing all of her agency, portraying her as a literal child, and portraying her consensual relationships as sexual violence. And all this is done, not in private by concerned friends, but in front of the world. "Age gap discourse" is dragging a woman through the mud of the town square yelling "this child is being sexually abused!" And pretending it's feminism.
God, I'm so glad about the Hexbear position on this session. I had an ex, "socialist" who always said any woman younger than like 30 was a "child" whenever it came to relationships or sex. We were together like 8 years and it would come up occasionally but any arguments I would make against it were just labeled "anti-feminist" or taking advantage or whatever. Of course when she was younger she could make the same choices but now other women couldn't because of power dynamics.
I wouldn't be surprised if she was @LiberalSocialist@hexbear.net.
At best it's a negation of the idea of "adult" as a concept, and at worst it's an attempt to say that it can never apply to women.
Well said.
After 20 some years of reading blogs, personal essays and other anecdotal accounts of personal trauma, I've honestly come to the conclusion that people don't have agency, or if they do, they don't want it. Especially when it comes to sex.
Turns out humans are messy idiots who often choose to do things they almost immediately regret and often express a desire for society or some other "big other" to police their behaviors to prevent them from making decisions they regret. Most people do express this desire that literally because it runs up against our fetishized concept of "freedom", but I think it's a desire we all have and that all the "age gap" stuff is an manifestation of it, we want society to police our sex more so we don't consent to things we end up regretting.
Trevor from Aeon Flux was right.
One of the episodes is him showing his massive surveillance system, the screen behind him is people doing various sex things, I think, and saying it's setting people free. I forget the nuances.