Hi Chapos throwaway for obvious reasons.

I’ve managed to buy an apartment, two bedrooms. I live in it, but I rent the other room out. Is it unethical for me to hide that I’m the owner?

I don’t really lie-lie, like if I’m asked straight up I’ll answer, but I’ll avoid it if possible.

It’s mostly because it creates an odd power dynamic and I’d rather have a flatmate than a tenant if that makes sense.

Reason I bought is I don’t want to deal with landlords, obviously.

Do I get the wall?

  • Sulvor [he/him, undecided]
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    2 days ago

    Yes.

    You're going to be living with this person, do you want the foundation of the relationship to be a lie? They'll probably figure it out eventually anyway.

    • GuiltyConscience [he/him]
      hexagon
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      2 days ago

      I figure that’s preferable to telling them outright, because it gives a chance for a relationship to form first.

      • Sulvor [he/him, undecided]
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        2 days ago

        No because then they won't be able to trust you, because you lied about the nature of the relationship

        • Comp4 [comrade/them]
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          2 days ago

          Yeah, it’s a bit baffling that OP doesn’t see the importance of being upfront about stuff like this.

          I hope OP is just young, and this is simply a lack of maturity.

          • Sulvor [he/him, undecided]
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            2 days ago

            Yeah, this sort of view on lying:

            Also just to be clear I don’t outright lie, but I don’t tell unless I’m explicitly asked.

            Denotes a manipulative person or someone with very little interpersonal experience.