Okay so I'm just gonna say some stuff and I haven't really thought about this too much so I'm shooting from the hip here but it seams like being a TERF takes vastly more effort than not being a TERF. Like it's way more work than being a bog standard misogynist. So the issue isn't that they are lazy, per se, it's that they've chosen to die on this very frustrating reactionary hill. So you can't even kinda defend them by calling it ignorance. No, they had to do work to get here, and they still concluded the worst fucking things.

I try to be nice to people and be patient and tolerant because, partly, I can. That's a privilege I have as a cis man. Somebody saying "I hate trans people" isn't a direct threat to me. I still condemn it, I tell them to shut the fuck up, but I can afford to try to talk them down from those rhetorical ledges because I'm not in the cross hairs, if you know what I am saying. I can try to interrogate them and be a little more objective about it because I'm not having to defend my right to exist. Like it's one of those fucked up ways where you can use their bigotry to shut down a bigot and I'm willing to use any tool I can to combat that stuff. Again, it's how I can use my privilege. Privilege doesn't go away because I pretend it doesn't exist so I should use it tactically.

The point I'm trying to make here is that I don't extend that to TERFs because they've clearly thought about it! They've rehearsed talking points and stuck their heads in sand. So they should be bullied into oblivion.