When knowing a rejection is destined, I would rather disappear and see the crush be with someone else. A hope which has been shot down is a scar for life, whereas an attempt never made painfully warms my heart forever.
I'm always proud of the people in my life making good healthy decisions for themselves.
surely having a low self-esteem is worse. life goes on. why bother over that one single log when you've got all the forest to explore?
Go all in. See your crush with someone else, confess your feelings to them loudly and in front of their current partner, ugly cry when it goes badly. Leave telling them you'll wait for them. Text the partner later to say "nothing personal, I'm the right person for Crush and we both know it".
Let me think, is there anything else one could do to make it more desperate and toxic? Without crossing into actual criminal harassment and stalking of course.
That seems pretty contrarian, nobody likes being rejected and it's natural to feel envious or sad seeing someone else get the closeness you wanted. Whether or not rejection is a part of life or healthy in the long term it is going to be bad while you're experiencing it, and feeling negatively when seeing the object of your affection with someone else could arguably be unbecoming since you'll want the best for them but it's about ad human as it gets.
Idk I crush on a lot of folks, I'm also in a long term (polyam) relationship.
Whether or not rejection is a part of life or healthy in the long term it is going to be bad while you’re experiencing it
Why?
when seeing the object of your affection with someone else could arguably be unbecoming since you’ll want the best for them but it’s about ad human as it gets.
I tend to feel compersion over envy
The point is that there is a universalizing here of something that isn't universal
I am anti-social, so I have no crush. You too, shall join me on this crusade to stop touching grass.
Getting rejected because you know three will be no future, while if your crush is with someone else, you can still hope to have a chance in the future.
But in the end, either way it's s bad day.
