This is making me think of two professors in my department when I was in grad school years ago. One was a very out and proud lesbian, one was a man who many people assumed was gay but was definitely not out. She pushed him to come out, frequently and publicly. It was so bad. Nobody every did anything about it and I felt so bad for him. Like, so maybe he's gay and he doesn't want to come out for some reason. Isn't that his right?