I would love it if people would forget these silly "material conditions" sometimes.
I think exploring your own vision of a better world is really healthy and hearing and discussing others' ideals is educational.
Yes, the world is ass and our pathways to FALGSC are basically nonexistent. I'm not saying people should be living in LaLa Land, but even with the way things are I just think it would be nice to hear people's aspirations!
So what's your unrealistic, niche, but admirable ideal?
IMO, it's honestly a lot worse than an "afterthought"- hence why Marx called for the abolishment of the bourgeois "family."
Capitalism inevitably commodifies everything- (and children, humans in general, etc. have been commodified long before capitalism developed IMO, though not on anywhere remotely comparable in scale).
Look up the "baby farms" of Victorian England, or the history of child labor (which is now making a comeback in the US), and the incredibly twisted history and current reality of international adoption networks, etc (and the corruption within the foster care system, institutional and by fosters as well).
Honestly as someone who feels strongly about it from personal experiences- the treatment of "parental rights" and a lot of the narratives around it are blatantly rejecting children's equal rights in favor of seeing them as property...
IMO: the children weren't an afterthought, not under capitalism. The system we live in has many, many people for whom they are not "afterthoughts" but rather how they make their wealth.