We are committed to providing a friendly, safe and welcoming environment for all, regardless of gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, personal appearance, body size, race, ethnicity, age, religion, nationality, or other similar characteristic.

We will exclude you from interaction if you insult, demean or harass anyone. That is not welcome behavior. In particular, we don’t tolerate behavior that excludes people in socially marginalized groups.

This 'struggle session' has cut open a sore of cisnormativity which allows plausible deniability of transphobic action and thought. It's senseless and insensitive to push back against what should be a non-issue. Cis and trans alike, set your pronouns so as to normalize an aspect of trans inclusion that goes some way to dispel cishet patriarchal norms assumed default by almost every space, especially online.

There is no excuse (that hasn't been considered and discussed and where applicable, taken on board) to push back against this as we as a community have. We can (and should) do better.

  • itsPina [he/him, she/her]
    3·
    4 years ago

    Its not a BIG problem but its VERY noticeable when theres a terf stirring shit. It only takes one or two in a thread to ruin everyones mood. We will probably have a context thread or whatever to make it clear what went down for those who aint terminally online. If nobody does it soon I'll make sure and do it myself :)

    • the_river_cass [she/her]
      2·
      4 years ago

      seriously soured me every time one popped in and the impact of that kind of transphobia takes serious time and emotional reserves to manage. it really doesn't take many of them in addition to the huge outpouring of well-meaning but ignorant and repetitive questions to overwhelm someone emotionally.

      • QuillQuote [they/them]
        1·
        4 years ago

        Glad you're here, and thankful for your dedication to this community

      • itsPina [he/him, she/her]
        2·
        4 years ago

        Yep, you are absolutely correct. Hopefully this gets taken care of right here and we can go back to posting pig poop balls and garfield porn. If you have any problems feel free to message me or the other mods :)

        • the_river_cass [she/her]
          1·
          4 years ago

          appreciated :). I think the biggest thing people (speaking generally) can do to reduce the impact of these things is just to manage their own sense of entitlement and especially what they're projecting on others, three times so when the person you're talking to is a member of a political minority that's dealing with a lot of shit at that moment of time.

          • itsPina [he/him, she/her]
            3·
            4 years ago

            Yeah like if you are ignorant on the history or need for Neopronouns just fucking READ about it, dont ask some dumb question that can be taken offensively. Sure if you actually need a clarification ask someone but PLEASE don't just say "duhh i dont get neopronouns whats the point? doesnt he her they work duhhh" esp when 1000 people have answered it already

    • fusion513 [none/use name]
      1·
      4 years ago

      Ah, got it. Yeah, guess just takes one idiot taking a dump in the pool to ruin it for everyone. Sorry y'all have to put up with that.

      • itsPina [he/him, she/her]
        2·
        4 years ago

        Its okay. Its honestly good to know what had so many (even if it was a very small minority) terfs here so we can get them the fuck out. Like I guarantee we have more trans pals than TERFs here and we need to make it VERY clear that TERFs will NEVER be welcome here.

      • fusion513 [none/use name]
        ·
        4 years ago

        I don't know if this is too big an ask... but maybe a "Pronoun Etiquette 101 FAQ" to sticky? My gender identity is something I've always just taken for granted, and pronouns have honestly never really been "on my radar."

        Communicating online makes it doubly tough because you can't really pick up on comfort cues you could with face to face convos.