Her dad is Jewish, mom isn't, and parents are divorced. The extent of her religion is "we said the prayers on hannukkah." Last night she heard about some right wingers she's barely related to say that Jewish people go to hell. This then led to my gf saying that "the left" also does the same thing.

Is this what the kids are calling "the ick"?

  • Cummunism [they/them, he/him]
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    2 days ago

    we've been together 5+ years and own a house and have 4 cats. If it was like 3 months into the relationship though, probably lol

    • Justice@lemmygrad.ml
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      2 days ago

      If she sees this comment though... might speed the process up

      Excellent 5D chess move

      But on a more serious note, this sounds like an infinite fountain of resentment for the two of you. From the outsider POV here, it's easy to say "just leave." But as someone on the outside who has been on the inside... you gotta take action. Now or later, this stuff tends to explode.

      Results will be a quick burn end of the relationship or she comes to acknowledge the truth (that criticism of Israel doesn't inherently have anything at all to do with Jewish people. And also thinking it does is into itself pretty antisemitic even if tons of people think it anyway). You either save yourself years of internal torment and resentment (and probably same on her end, to be fair) or you have a healthier, more mature relationship where you can respect each other and learn and grow together.

      It's your life ultimately. Why spend it with a hovering cloud of resentment over your main relationship and source of human contact? Unless it genuinely doesn't bother you. Then do whatever. Do whatever anyway. It seems to bother you though considering draws circle this whole-ass post.

      And the sunk cost fallacy is a bad logical fallacy with investments and such. When using it regarding a relationship... it's only going to get more "sunk." More cats, maybe kids, who knows. I don't want to boil relationships down to dollars, but it's safe to say long term committed relationships don't tend to have partners become less "bought-in" over time.

      • corgiwithalaptop [any, love/loves]
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        2 days ago

        I was with someone for 10 years of my life that was more conservative than they let on to most people.

        I would absolutely agree with this post. Seriously weigh out your situation here - and maybe talk to some IRL friends that know the both of you, if you can. I didn't listen to mine, and that's years of my life I can't get back.

    • IHave69XiBucks@lemmygrad.ml
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      2 days ago

      If you love this person and want to stay with them you have 2 options. Either you ignore this and try to not let it bother you, or you talk it out, and try to educate them. If they love you back they should be willing to listen to reason.

      I will say tho. If you arent happy now are you gonna be happy in 5 more years? When millions more are dead and she supports it? What about in 10 when she wants to go on vacation in Gaza and stay in a beach house built on top of child bones? How much are you willing to put up with?