So many party invites to juggle because I wanna go to all the things all of my partners want to go to. So many gifts to buy for really important people. So many mini gift exchanges to be scheduled. Every partner you or a partner or a meta adds makes everything infinitely more complicated.
It's both the most loving time of the year and also the most complicated part of the year.
How close do you feel to that third partner? How often and long do you chat online? Probably just a me problem but if I'm not hanging out with people at least once a week or so in an intimate and close fashion (i.e. not a big group activity/party and lots of conversation) I can't feel emotionally close to them
Very close. I wish I was closer. We're both experienced polyam though and we both have bonkers schedules so it's just an agreement that we have. It's been a very slow moving relationship because we don't spend as much time as we'd like. But we just communicate about it and we stay connected how we can. We send pictures and updates about our day and we do the best we can.
As long as we communicate and stay in the same page it's been fine. We'll see though I have a feeling it won't be okay forever. We've only been doing this a year ish and it's been hard at times for sure.
But when the right relationship comes into your life you make it work even if its tough.
I hope it works out for you two long term! Sorry to hear the infrequently face to face has made it hard at times
That's okay! I think it will, but if not I won't regret trying. Gotta take risks with your heart sometimes to get the most out of life