An evergreen bell hooks quote:
The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem.
For any men near the beginning of their journey to adopt of a more healthy masculinity, The Will To Change by bell hooks is an excellent read
If anyone's interested in reading through it with others, we have a book club going for this book right now! It's a fantastic read so far and we just started!
At first, I had to question why I was seeing a question like this, then I remembered where I was. But if I start talking trash about dbzer0 like this here, my shit's finna get pinched.
Everyone involved in the book club is taking it seriously and we've had great discussions so far without any irony poisoning. You don't need to be a commie or an anarchist to get a lot out of the experience, we just want more people who will earnestly engage with the work.
I might, in all honesty, and thank you. I'll have to go find how thoroughly I've blocked that instance (TIL: my filters are not fully synced between devices), but I appreciate knowing this is out there, at the least.
I understand the hesitancy. Hexbear’s not for everyone. If you were only going to interact with a single corner of Hexbear and ignore the rest, this book club would be a good place to do so. It’ll be low on snark and full of people doing earnest discussion.
it's stressful, spending a lifetime pretending to not be as sensitive as a de-scrotum'd testicle
So your response to an article about how men don't talk about their feelings is "Ha Ha men are just sensitive snowflakes"?
I wonder why men don't talk about their feelings more 🤔🤔
do you always just make up completely different meanings for the things you read? or only when it's something about men being sensitive and trying to pretend not to be?
A long-term study in the US involving around 10,000 young men has already shown that they are more likely to commit suicide over a period of 20 years if they identify strongly with traditional masculine roles. These norms are characterized by ideas that originated from the previously strongly patriarchal social framework. They prescribe the characteristics that men should have and how they should behave. These include, for example, independence, controlling their emotions and not showing their vulnerability. In science, this is summarized under the term traditional masculine ideologies.
Toxic Masculinity is very real.
The Woke is trying to prevent REAL men from exercising their right to unalive themselves!
as always the problem is capitalism and its highest form, imperialism
a particularly high risk of suicide
As is expected from the traditional gender role.
If you're someone who frequently looks at your gender and then complains "my gender typically suffers from x malady" and it's not something that's being forced upon you by external factors (such needing your partner to confirm your personal medical decisions with your doctor concerning future procreation or needing your partner's permission to file for divorce), then maybe you should consider not being a typical example of your gender.
I have suicidal ideations and intrusive thoughts because a little voice likes to pop in every so often and tell me that killing myself would be super cool. So I take medicine to quiet the voice and tattle on it to my friends and family whenever it speaks up so they can help me assess if the advice is helpful or not. Is it "manly" to tell people close to me "I'm having suicidal thoughts and I don't know why"? Nope. But I'd rather be a weirdo than hurt my family.
Tradmen and tradwives are terrible examples of how to be a human human.
The key to happiness is not having expectations haha. (Oversimplification, of course)
By that measure, we're all supposed to be fuckin' ecstatic over here in the US right now, then. 🥹
I mean, everything about the fetid amalgam of mud fuckery that's festering to boil over... As a nation, the prevailing placating excuse (aka "flagrant lie") seems to be: we simply did nazi that coming. 🤷🏼♂️
External factors that have power over you can of course ruin the “plan” so to speak lol
