Its really frustrating to me how few people are willing to seriously consider what they want from relationships and why. There are so many feminist identifying or adjacent women who never contend with the dissonance between their politics and relationships. There seem to be so few people who are actually trying to figure out what makes them, as an individual, happy in a relationship. It seems like they just look for the partner that will raise their social status the most, who isn't too much of an asshole for them to handle, and hope for the best.