[I'm new to c/chat so please remove the post if it isn't fitting for the community. I didn't know where else to post and will gladly move this one if necessary.]
I don't want this to be a long-ass rant, but I gotta air my frustration as I'm (as of now) spending new year's eve alone.
2024 was a shit year, both personally - for a ton of reasons - as well as gestures around you know exactly what I mean. I've been looking for work ever since last year, and that is an absolutely shitty position to be in atm. You know the drill, nobody will hire anyone without work experience but nobody will let you get any experience with pay or at all if you're no longer enrolled in college. So I've been applying to whatever I could get, roughly in the direction of what I've been studying, but there's just no positive feedback. Either it's formulaic "sorry to inform you but..." or "found someone better suited to the position" etc etc.
If you do this long enough, it just becomes a hopelessly worthless routine, and none of your applications feel like they led to anything. So naturally, you complain to family and friends, because hey, those are people who would support you in your time of need, or so you'd think. I've learned the hard lesson on family multiple times already, so it came as no surprise when an aunt told me to "just do the job you were trained for". There's nothing to get there, auntie, at least not if I want to make rent and pay for food, duh. Second thing that pissed me of royally was extended family tonight. Talking around the dinner table about how this year dragged on forever, I was told that it's no surprise I feel that way, because "if you were doing something, time would pass quicker".
Safe to say, I removed myself from the room immediately and hope I can avoid the lot until at least tomorrow morning. Friends aren't really helpful either because they got a job through "friends of the family" or aren't looking for work (yet).
Anyway, I'm typing this because I didn't want to feel alone on New Year's Eve with my sensation of being bullied for not having a job and not having someone to talk to. I hope someone understands.
Edit: You guys have really made me feel a lot less shit with your comments, thank you <3
I understand, being jobless is very harsh, especially people start treating you like worthless trash, even if you did "everything right" before. Like I had to tell one of my parents, back when I had a year of just not finding a job, despite having a degree in a STEM field (I come from an rural area and it was/is a troubled economy), that I wasnt being picky and why I could not just "get" one. Mind you that parent had worked in the same job and company for 50 years and only had two job interviews in their entire live during historic economic boom.
I can only try to imagine how furious you must have been. At the same time, it's so easy to laugh about parents/people of that age group, because of what you said, that a lot of self-control goes into not ridiculing them for their archaic beliefs.
Judging by your phrasing I'm gonna assume you managed to get a job eventually, and I am happy you got out of that seemingly inescapable pit. Let's just say, should we ever get in a position similar to that of your parent, I know both of us will be wise enough not to talk down to the next generation.
Yeah it was bad, my parent did concede that they ultimately did not have a clue but you know its always easier to flippantly throw out accusations and start drama. I did manage to get a job - for now at least. Even my parent became more sympathetic to my former situation once the working conditions declined massively and working became a chore, they actually had a job they loved doing and fulfilled them! Imagine that.
A fulfilling job? In this economy?
Kidding aside, happy to hear it got better for you!
I think my frustration doesn't come from their lived experience and where their belief comes from, its their condescension and unwillingness to change based on how things are now reported from people they ostensibly care about.