It is kinda ruining my life lmao. I have never felt this strongly for anyone. When we talk, I can ride that high for days. But then she gives me (what I perceive as) the cold shoulder and the depression I feel... boy. It's been like this for months. I cannot go on, man.

  • CaliforniaSpectre [he/him, comrade/them]
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    5 days ago

    One word: limerance. You're enjoying a fantasy as a form of emotional self-regulation. Once you realize it was a fantasy that you built up around your crush that in all likelihood you don't know all that well, it's pretty easy to get over it.

    • LibsEatPoop [any]
      hexagon
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      5 days ago

      I know it’s a fantasy. I’ve been in that for six fucking months. It’s getting worse.

      • Sulvor [he/him, undecided]M
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        5 days ago

        I’ve read the whole thread and you need to express your feelings to this person ASAP

        • LibsEatPoop [any]
          hexagon
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          5 days ago

          Why did you come to that conclusion? I do want to but I want to do that in person not over text and I’m also scared. I want to ask her to coffee or brunch or something first but then I don’t know to tell her what I’m feeling. I’m just confused.

          • Sulvor [he/him, undecided]M
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            5 days ago

            The longer the relationship stays like this, the longer you will fantasize and create a perfect image of her/the relationship in your head, which will be damaging to the actual relationship and actual person should the relationship happen