My last crushpost got a little weird. They usually don’t get much attention, and what little there is I think is usually men. So this thread should be a good opportunity for women and enbies to bring up what you find problematic.
Update:
Thanks everyone for responding. I have read all the replies and am giving them serious consideration. I will stop crushposting, I deleted all the posts, and deleted the meat of this post as well. Weird or not, however obfuscated, it’s still an obsession and a privacy concern.
Hmm... TBH, I don't really know how to explain it. Like I said I know the feeling. Maybe its like a social anxiety thing or being ND.
And I'm not suggesting that he try and deduce it. It was more of a suggestion of how to make it a bit more comfortable way to bring it up and eventually ask.
I get social anxiety but I honestly feel that's the conditioning that's been beaten into us as neurodivergent people to get us to not do what comes naturally. Because we've all been blunt and direct and had people shit on us for it. But the truth is that it's better 99% of the time to be blunt and direct anyways and that neurotypical people suck at communicating.
Yeah. In my life I've definitely had people kind of beat the whole "think before you speak" type stuff into me. Conditioning is definitely a large part of it.
I think the 1% of the time thinking before you speak is necessary is probably when people are in mourning and that's about it. Oh and ensuring you aren't using slurs