My last crushpost got a little weird. They usually don’t get much attention, and what little there is I think is usually men. So this thread should be a good opportunity for women and enbies to bring up what you find problematic.
Update:
Thanks everyone for responding. I have read all the replies and am giving them serious consideration. I will stop crushposting, I deleted all the posts, and deleted the meat of this post as well. Weird or not, however obfuscated, it’s still an obsession and a privacy concern.
not saying this is right, but if you ask outright it can seem like you're sniffing around the Human Relationship solely to sus out romantic compatibility? that said idt it's wrong if like, the subject of yalls dating life came up anyway, u know some kind of organic segue comes up. and there's also nothing "wrong" with the direct ask either it just might be frowned upon in neurotypical land.
I mean generally if you stay friends with them and aren't creepy even if they say no then there's no issue I can think of that makes sense. Most of the issues probably come from people who ask about romantic compatibility and just drop people after getting a no which probably hurts a lot if the person being asked wanted to be friends
Yeah mostly agreed, but unspoken social rules can be devious little punks sometimes
yeah my understanding is this is kind of pervasive within opposite gender friendships and sucks majorly, definitely a dudes being raised to be Not Normal or Decent about womxn type of thing :(