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  • hexbee [she/her]M
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    3 days ago

    And you're left wondering whether they just changed their mind or whether they were playing you the whole time. And it's much worse than if nobody had offered help at all because to get that offer of help when you are desperate is such a relief, you check back your messages several times a day with such hope, wondering when you'll finally get to eat, or get whatever you need, and after several days (or even weeks in my previously mentioned case) comes the sinking feeling and realisation that they aren't going to follow through.

    So real, you describe the feeling very well... Maybe it comes down to people severely devaluing the power of their own words? It's pretty popular to lie on your CV or give out fake it till you make it advice, so maybe people just say things... aspirationally?? I would say more, but it feels like anything I write is going to devolve into vitriolic bullshit and I don't even have the energy for that right now

    • DisabledAceSocialist [comrade/them]
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      3 days ago

      Another awful thing is when people leave messages in the thread saying they're going to help, and then don't follow through. And I wonder if this is why some of the other people don't follow through. Maybe they make an offer, then see someone else in the thread make an offer and think "Oh this person has been helped now, I needn't bother." And then neither end up following through, and other people who might have helped see the message offering help and think they won't bother now.

      • hexbee [she/her]M
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        3 days ago

        Another awful thing is when people leave messages in the thread saying they're going to help, and then don't follow through.

        All the social cred of being a good person, with none of the work!

        and think "Oh this person has been helped now, I needn't bother.

        I always assume the person still needs help unless the post has been edited to indicate otherwise, but we're all built different I guess