Gas budget? Date budget? Ha. More like book budget. I've said it numerous times here but I just don't get romantic relationships. Like, I don't understand them. I don't get love. I'd love to meet someone who proves me wrong or helps me see the light but I'm not going to, and even then the thought of being relationally obligated to talk to someone makes me want to scream. I just want to fucking read in peace and I'm tired of being ass blasted by lovey dovey couple shit that I don't understand every time I turn my head. It's all nonsense to me. ☠️
Don't know what happened in the comments, just got here, but please don't ever feel shame comrade. You're the only one that can live you're life for you and I hope you do what makes you happy. If no romance makes you happy then good be happy.
Thank you, comrade. I appreciate the support. I'll have you know I bought like 10 books for super cheap on Sunday and I've never looked forward to a weekend more than this coming weekend. ❤️😍
Nice, I've been downloading books myself ever since this place taught me how. Doesn't beat actually physical copies but been great anyway. Let's raise our books like glasses and toast, cheers. 🎉
I can't read ebooks for shit, my ADD riddled brain literally can't handle having the entirety of human knowledge at my fingertips, I just end up cruising the web instead of reading, I need hard copies, lol. I buy all books VERY second hand so it's not a huge deal. Volume 3 of Capital is hella marked but still readable and that's fine to me, lol.
I hear what you're saying, my kindle can only handle one thing at a time I guess because these books aren't 100% legal so it punishes me by not giving easy access. If I go away it closes the whole thing but this has helped me focus a bit since I can't really multitask. Love writing notes in a physical copy but for a while the only copies I could get where library books. Though with all the books I got I'm juggling like 5 books at a time, read one switch to another and another. I've yet to actually finish one.
It's interesting to hear this. I'd also call myself aro+ace, but I find, confusingly, I can enjoy representations of romance/sexuality, I just don't connect it to myself. Except for cishet relationships, which I generally find sort of distasteful (lol). I don't feel an even remote desire to actually take part in a relationship, but I think can appreciate the concept of it as an ideal or a fantasy. Sometimes it does all get on my nerves though. Thanks for posting this :)
I don’t feel an even remote desire to actually take part in a relationship, but I think can appreciate the concept of it as an ideal or a fantasy.
YES THIS. I LOVE THE IDEA OF COMPANIONSHIP BUT IT MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE AND ANXIOUS IN REALITY.
YES. AS SOON AS IT GETS CLINGY I GET UNCOMFORTABLE, BUT I'M LITERALLY DOWN FOR WHATEVER UP TO THAT POINT.
You don't need to justify anything. My phrasing came off too hard.
I got horrified and deleted but I'm realizing I don't have to justify shit. I don't feel much period, let alone in the way of romantics and I really shouldn't be made to feel like "I'm being too literal" about something I've been struggling to come to terms with. That's fucked.
I don’t feel much period,
If you mean emotions in general it could be important to look into the cause, anxiety and depression can have an emotional numbing effect which is the opposite of the intense emotions a lot of people get which allows it to go under the radar. I've had it myself frequently and it can be hard to even recognize it as a problem as for the most part it lets you live a regular life with little issues, but though it is comfortable it isn't necessarily good missing out on the higher capacity for joy etc the average person can enjoy.
Not sure if this relates in anyway to the ARO stuff btw as that sounds like more of a personal preference thing. Just wanted to give you a quick heads up if this is something you have noticed with your feelings in general.
Me: I have no desire to be in a romantic relationship and would generally rather die than be in one.
You: Actually, you're jumping the gun, sweaty.
Yeah, I'm about to start grilling. 😤
Edit: I'm literally dragging out the Weber Spirit II E-310 as we speak.
aro gang aro gang aro aro aro gang
Anyway there will always be horny losers telling you that you aren't I've known I'm an aro ace for a long time now. Don't let them gaslight you!
