Mine's name is Claire but now you have to go in the bad-box for being lonely enough to know wtf tulpas are. Unless you're a buddhist monk in which you get a pass.
For some reason, I always use more formal names like Elizabeth or Victoria for my Servitors. Claire is the only one that stuck around to become a tulpa so ymmv.
Have you read the Schrodinger's Cat Trilogy by Robert Anton Wilson? Prometheus Rising is good too but its way more dry and Schrodinger's Cat explores the ideas in a more tactile and entertaining way. (Its easy to miss it if you aren't looking for it.) RAW does such a good job with the elemental/basic/core of reality manipulation/chaos magic theory. It doesn't even feel like "magic" so much as psychology.
As for your tulpa. It might be good to base it off a real person. Who is the first person you think of when you say "Loving trans comrades?" An icon with a name and face takes lots of the work out of it.
Don't bother with that, and just do what I do: have an undiagnosed disassociative disorder that makes my internal monologues basically autonomous
Let them name themselves, that's what I did, likewise for form. Imagine if you were allowed to choose your name and what you looked like from the beginning, instead of being molded by factors totally outside of your control?
