idk. like my boyfriend is hypothetically ok with me fooling around with women but not with men. and tbh i dont really see anything wrong with that, hes already a beefcake having more than one beefcake is overindulgence. and i think thats a common stereotype among straight men, they are ok with their bi girlfriends fooling around with other girls
I'm absolutely not shitting on people who choose their relationship structures deliberately. No other man, no other problem. That said, when I was adjacent to them a while ago, a sizable part of the poly community (which is not representative of ethical non-monogamy in general, and is lib af, but is very much woman-led) considered one-penis policies sexist, because they deprecate girl-girlsex as less real or less salient, and heteronormative, because they perform and thus validate a patriarchal norm.
maybe, i think he'd just feel jealous because what if the guy is hotter or something? like i kinda feel a similar way about him fooling around with other women. they have vaginas and i dont, and that would make me feel less-than. whereas if im fucking a girl, my boyfriend isnt a girl so he feels less insecure because its a different kind of attraction.
and also we both have penises so i suppose our policy would be a two penis policy lmfao. though he also extends his thing to trans women too so its less genitals based lol
Cisgenderist synecdoche? In my dated feminist theory?
It's more likely than you think.
Poly theory was just starting to accommodate transgenderism when I left the lifestyle communities, so I'll keep my whore mouth shut until I know something without the stench of TERFism wafting from it.
idk. like my boyfriend is hypothetically ok with me fooling around with women but not with men. and tbh i dont really see anything wrong with that, hes already a beefcake having more than one beefcake is overindulgence. and i think thats a common stereotype among straight men, they are ok with their bi girlfriends fooling around with other girls
I'm absolutely not shitting on people who choose their relationship structures deliberately. No other man, no other problem. That said, when I was adjacent to them a while ago, a sizable part of the poly community (which is not representative of ethical non-monogamy in general, and is lib af, but is very much woman-led) considered one-penis policies sexist, because they deprecate girl-girlsex as less real or less salient, and heteronormative, because they perform and thus validate a patriarchal norm.
Looks like I gotta train for a struggle session.
maybe, i think he'd just feel jealous because what if the guy is hotter or something? like i kinda feel a similar way about him fooling around with other women. they have vaginas and i dont, and that would make me feel less-than. whereas if im fucking a girl, my boyfriend isnt a girl so he feels less insecure because its a different kind of attraction.
and also we both have penises so i suppose our policy would be a two penis policy lmfao. though he also extends his thing to trans women too so its less genitals based lol
Cisgenderist synecdoche? In my dated feminist theory?
It's more likely than you think.
Poly theory was just starting to accommodate transgenderism when I left the lifestyle communities, so I'll keep my whore mouth shut until I know something without the stench of TERFism wafting from it.
kinda a huge mood
it can be sexist but it really doesn't have to be. they might just be cool with their partner doing something they can't provide on their own.
ONE PENIS POLICY
tbh i am excited for mr. mao to institute the one penis policy and take my penis away. please mr. chairman my genitalia longs for freedom