this stems from another conversation on this site.

a commenter used the pronoun "they" because they didn't know the gender. Commenter could have looked at an inactives users profile to see the pronouns were she/her, but they didn't.

So the question is: is it wrong to use pronoun "they" when you simply don't know or needed to know the gender? I was told that "liberals" use it aggressively/offensively to trans people, but most liberals i know aren't smart enough to know about pronouns and how to use them properly.

I've been using "they" to admit gender ignorance all the fuckin time so im just trying to see if im wrong or not. Because ive never heard of this before. and i thought this site had told me everything by now lol

edit: thank you all for the comments. ill certainly try to remember to check pronouns of inactive accounts before i talk about them, but we need to be able to debate from a reasonable position and jumping to "HOW DARE YOU SAY THEY YOU LIB" isn't going to do shit. Lenin created schools to educate workers, Hexbear is our school. and i fucking love this school.

  • TankieCatgirl [she/her, comrade/them]
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    1 year ago

    That's 100% understandable, and there's a huge difference between being understanding of someone struggling in a context like that, vs not bothering to click a link to verify before throwing up your hands and acting like it's unknowable. I also assume you knew the person well enough to know he was actually trying, which doesn't often apply online.

    • Cummunism [they/them, he/him]
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      1 year ago

      and that's my other point: the words versus the intent(especially on the internet where words have no tone). Pronouns are trickier territory than racial slurs.