this stems from another conversation on this site.

a commenter used the pronoun "they" because they didn't know the gender. Commenter could have looked at an inactives users profile to see the pronouns were she/her, but they didn't.

So the question is: is it wrong to use pronoun "they" when you simply don't know or needed to know the gender? I was told that "liberals" use it aggressively/offensively to trans people, but most liberals i know aren't smart enough to know about pronouns and how to use them properly.

I've been using "they" to admit gender ignorance all the fuckin time so im just trying to see if im wrong or not. Because ive never heard of this before. and i thought this site had told me everything by now lol

edit: thank you all for the comments. ill certainly try to remember to check pronouns of inactive accounts before i talk about them, but we need to be able to debate from a reasonable position and jumping to "HOW DARE YOU SAY THEY YOU LIB" isn't going to do shit. Lenin created schools to educate workers, Hexbear is our school. and i fucking love this school.

  • TankieCatgirl [she/her, comrade/them]
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    1 year ago

    I don't think anyone would fault you for using the information you currently have available, even if it might possibly be outdated. And if someone happens to know updated information, a quick correction is all it would take.

    And thinking to check a profile for pronouns is now something you can try to be aware of, and do better with.

    I do wish you would use hir correct (as far as we know) pronouns now that you have been corrected, though.

    • robot_dog_with_gun [they/them]
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      1 year ago

      i never interacted with tc69 but other people were using she/her so if i had a reason to participate in that other conversation i would have carried on with those pronouns, but maybe those were made after the user this post is sortof about made comment.

      i've never clicked on someone's profile and i'm not going to start, i didn't even know we had profile pages and especially with the scuffed accessibility standard preventing links from opening in new tabs I think clicking onto a new page and losing track of your place in a conversation is enough of a competing accessibility to rise above "bare minimum", as someone else put it.

      maybe userpings or links to whatever the fuck a profile is should have the pronounce in them

      • TankieCatgirl [she/her, comrade/them]
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        1 year ago

        That's completely fair and valid. It would definitely be helpful to have pronouns added to pings/profile links in the name of accessibility.