Disclaimer: All my love to poly comrades, I'm not shitting on your relationship preferences, it's just this tweet is ridiculous.
Disclaimer: All my love to poly comrades, I'm not shitting on your relationship preferences, it's just this tweet is ridiculous.
The vast majority of poly relationships I've seen have basically just gone "two people who are intensely in love with each other but also one or both want to sleep around -> one of them gets replaced in emotional importance by someone new -> the replaced party ends up deeply hurt that someone they love doesn't give a shit about them anymore." It's happened to friends of mine, it happened to my ex before we started dating, and then she did it to me in turn. In fact, I've only ever seen one long-term stable polycule and even having barely any contact with them all I see is the ridiculous amount of effort they all put in to maintain that relationship with one another.
People get hurt and badly hurt each other in relationships all the time. Lots of people aren't (yet but they could be) the kind to reflect and really care about the needs of others, and just as is the case with monogamy, usually results in pain and hurt feelings. It's nothing unique to polyamory, it's just that polyamory involves more moving parts and there are more opportunities for friction.
the ones ive seen work best is when two couples decide they really like each other's company and decide to take it more seriously. everyone already is more attached to one person and it helps meld things better.