Honestly most poly people ive met are buttholes to their significant others. Like one of them is obviously monogamous and uncomfy with it but the poly one is so out of their league that they just tolerate it. It’s pretty cringe ngl and I’ve met literally 30 or more people in relationships considering I’ve spent too much time in the rave scene. I’ve seen 1 actual poly relationship where both of them are super into it.