are there any good resources or any insider knowledge here on how you learn to play things by ear?

i've been wanting to learn a few songs for a while but the extent of information about them online is just chords, and that doesn't help me with finger picking patterns at all so i was wondering if you had any good tips on getting started with it because i have no idea where i'd even begin. (i know i can just google "how to learn to play by ear" (and i am doing that as well) but i like to ask here as well because it's nice to hear directly frmo real people)

plus i think playing by ear is a really good skill to have in general so i don't have to rely on tabs and youtube videos to learn songs.