I care a lot about what other people think (not good) and if someone tries to help or helps me, I can't stay without saying thank you. I really want to thank people who comment on my posts. But many times I ask a lot of questions and I thus reply to a lot of comments and try to be polite and show how grateful I am. So, now, I have seen many people abandoning their posts after they get their answer without upvotes or replies or followups, I am pretty sure they are better at time management than I am. Now, what do you think?
What is the right way to behave when you post and random strangers help you? I know you all don't think about me all the time and if you made a comment you probably will forget about it, so is it ok to just upvote and forget even the people who help you? I have an exam in a few months and I should not be wasting my time rn, what would you do if you were in my place?
Don't say "dont' create posts" because I like the people here and the answers they give, but yeah, it's a hell of a job to reply "satisfactorily". Again, should I just "upvote and ignore"?
Also, I just want to say that people here are amazing. You guys are very helpful! Like, especially on c/linux! Such helpful communities are one of the things that make Linux great and more usable! Thank you to the folks at c/linux btw
You will never find a satisfying answer to this question because there isn't one and social relationships are not transactional. Acknowledgements are nice, upvotes or comments but no one really expects replies. I generally only reply if I want to continue or add to a conversation. Nevertheless, it doesn't frankly seem like you want advice here. If you want to study, literally just get off of Lemmy and back to studying, there isn't a way around it.
You will never find a satisfying answer to this question because there isn’t one and social relationships are not transactional. Acknowledgements are nice, upvotes or comments but no one really expects replies.
thank mate! I will consider this from now on
I care a lot about what other people think (not good) and if someone tries to help or helps me, I can’t stay without saying thank you.
Since you consider this to be a bad thing, have you tried changing yourself? I recommend chillin' and hangin' out.
An upvote is enough. If something really helps you out and you want to say "real" thanks, once per thread is enough, even if there are follow up questions.
This question makes me think about how would I protect precious Mr Rogers from the heinous things in the Internet (RIP if he were still with us today) because quite honestly I would love it if there were a space like his show somewhere on it.
Replying to slow your gratitude seems like a nice thing to do, like holding a door open, but hardly necessary or expected. I feel like many people answering questions are just hurling their knowledge into the ether to be picked up by whoever comes across it. They know the op and perhaps more people will see it but don't expect a response. If you don't have the time just hit that upvote button, you've done nothing wrong. But if you do have the time don't feel like you are doing something wrong by responding, it's the unexpected things that are the most precious.
I don't usually say it out loud, but I do thank people with either upvotes, faves, following them, or depending on my resources, replying with a vocaroo of me giving thanks if the acquaintanceship is semi-personal. It's sometimes better.
My very small gripe with this sub is that this post will likely be removed over rule 3.
Eh do what feels natural to you, but if you are short on time don't go around saying thank you to everyone. Prioritize, how impactful was this interaction in the grand scheme of your life? Did the other person spend a lot of thought and time typing to answer? Those things weigh in too.
It's ok to not reply and don't take it personal if people don't reply.
I usually just throw a "thanks in advance" in the OP ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I reply "thank you" a bunch. Do it if it makes you happy, don't if you don't wanna. It'll all work out.
I've never posted asks for help that exploded, so that helps.
Simple comments that don't really add anything to the thread I'll upvote just cause unless they're shitty.
I'll reply with an emoji or or a short "thanks for the help" if anything that was offered was legitimately helpful.
