JK1348 [he/him]

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  • JK1348 [he/him]tochatHow do I change what I'm attracted to?
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    1 year ago

    Quite honestly I just stopped chasing, we chase after what we know

    When you stop chasing and just be, you start to recognize genuine healthy connections when they naturally come along. It's been a journey for me but honestly I still relapse here and there because it's something I'm barely grasping









  • Our Eagles are conditioned to be validated and caught up in consumerism much worse. Nowadays with social media I have to disagree that unraveling the ego is meaningless because quite honestly, if I'm being honest, it's the ego that gets in the way of all forms of organizing

    I do believe that in order to snap out of this you just need to kind of start getting yourself to work me. Personally. I use a Kobe mentality to the things I aspire to do. It's very hard

    But I do believe the ego unraveling is extremely essential to inner growth. How can you help anyone? How can you help the front line if you are not at peace with yourself? Think about it. This is one of the main issues we have in organizing spaces or just generally today throughout the world, we we all came from some form of generational trauma and that requires healing and that is done through unraveling


  • I'm going to disagree with you as someone with ADHD who is in therapy and does not take meds

    I think it's a very dangerous thing for you to compare meds with therapy because quite honestly therapy takes years for mental unraveling for you to just come to the conclusion that maybe you need to start applying yourself a little better

    ADHD with mental health shortcomings can exacerbate the daily task into it a very arduous process.

    While I understand the point of what you are saying and yes it does require some application in order to get the ball rolling, it's more than just getting up off your ass. It's unraveling the ego , and why you are there in the first place







  • I'm very extroverted and I used to drink excessively in party environments because I'm a social butterfly, and outgoing.

    When I quit drinking over a year ago, I thought it was gonna be hard to spread my extroverted wings to party environments etc. Was it an adjustment? Yes.

    But I'm glad I did that because I found that, yes I do love some fun night life and genuinely enjoy music and dancing. But also that these environments where others are drinking and expect you to drink (sometimes excessively) are not where you're going to find the best people at in general. You might get lucky sometimes but for the most part in my experience it's all apart of the party.

    Your best bet is to flex your extroverted muscle in other environments as well that might suit you for example if you love art, go to art events. If you love live music go to local music events or music festivals.

    I went back to school for music and it's been the greatest decision I ever made because it's brought me into a whole new world I was too afraid to attempt before.


  • I had the same thing I had a hangover kit that I would follow to make the hangover less harsh it was right around the time I quit too

    I'm happy you had a safe environment around your family mine would prefer I "loosen" up by drinking, in fact quitting made me realize that there was a lot of toxic dynamics within my family that need to be addressed, I never realized drinking was a form of tolerating it. I'm naturally extroverted so I thought parties and dancing was gonna be different, it was an adjustment but I still like to be outgoing and boogie, I just had to do it without alcohol, I find good substitutions in weed or psychedelics though as my tool to unwind when I need it



  • Thank you it's been a hard journey, I found that the 2 weeks to 2 month mark was the hardest that's when I can truly say I experienced physical withdrawals. I would get headaches when I saw alcohol or others drinking at parties I would get headaches.

    When I quit coke, I was told there would be physical withdrawals but I experienced more psychological ones than anything which is what scares me about alcohol. I felt this deep calling to return to it, I still the thought of the hangover really keeps me away at my age.


  • I quit drinking been clean for a year and a half, I just turned 31, at this age the hangovers are just too overwhelming for me to tough them out anymore. And quite honestly after completely quitting and seeing the upside I highly recommend to all my fellow comrades here.

    Now I am no saint, I love weed and psychedelics but after extensive research I find those to be a lot more better for me recreationally and yes therapeutically. But to each their own.

    I wish I never drank honestly I threw away my 20s, wasted time, destroyed the only long term relationship I ever had, and it was a gateway to harder drugs like cocaine. Which was the first thing I quit after battling a crazy addiction to it. Scarface level shit.

    What truly terrifies me is now that I've quit my once close family members would rather feel something is wrong with me for not drinking and preferring psychedelics over alcohol. Even when they say out loud that they support me their actions say otherwise.

    If anyone is trying to quit drink my DMs are open to share my experience