I think that’s the route I’d go for sure. Too many awesome kids out their already in need of a home.
If I want kids, me and my girl will probably adopt.
More fair warning, this time about international adoption: A staggering number of international adoptions are corrupt. Adoption agencies worldwide are constantly shut down as scandals come out that the agencies separate children from their families under false pretenses, then profiteer by selling them to unaware families in the U.S. The children are often not orphans; they have families and homes, but because of the wealth inequality between the nations involved, poor families don’t have a voice and their children are taken from them. Then the family’s poverty is used as justification while tens of thousands of dollars go to the adoption agency.
These kids may also have been through significant trauma (beyond being taken from their families which is trauma enough) and need a more specialized care than a biological kid.
It’s the story of my adopted siblings so I feel the need to warn people about it when adoption comes up.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_international_adoption_scandals
Yes, this is why if it happens down the line. Plenty of research and double checking myself will be a preclusion to actually taking a kind under our wing. I want to dive in as a good prepared parent.
Thanks so much for this info and heartfelt post. I appreciate the effort you put into it. I’ll make sure I’m one of the people who does his research if I do decide to adopt down the line.
Thank you dude
You should always adopt your children instead of buying them from the pet store.
I find surrogacy honestly dystopian. Like why are you in such desperate need for a child with your own genes? Why do you need to go through catalogues of men/women to find an egg/sperm donor that matches your criteria? Why does your child need to be a build-a-baby in order for you to love it?
Id rather adopt than have a baby chestburster its way out of ye ol' nether regions
Also finding a sperm donor seems like a lot of work
I logically am with you, and the egalitarian in me says this is the best route. But I've always loved the idea of taking care of a small clone of myself & my partner. I know it's driven by an evolutionary instinct to reproduce myself, but it's so hard to look past it.
My partner and I want to adopt, but I'm honestly not sure that we'll ever be financially stable enough for that sort of responsibility. We definitely know that we don't want biological children, though.
Basically where I’m at. If something changes financially for myself and my girl, we’d definitely adopt. Just want to make sure we can take care of a little person first before we throw our hat in the adoption ring.
Definitely won’t be having biological children though.
I don't want kids but if that ever changes I'm 100% adopting. I just don't see why it would matter to me so much who's vagina the baby came out of, rather than actually raising a kid
Adoption isn't cheap and it isn't, like, automatic. It can take years. Even though there are tons of kids that need homes, they aren't just giving them away.
My partner has a bipolar diagnosis. That apparently precludes us from adopting. So if we want a family in the future, we aren't allowed to adopt. If you're single, adopting is hard af.
My little sister finally got apprehended from our shitty abusive dad and she's not dealing well with being in foster care. I'm not allowed to take her in for some reason, only a couple other family members (I suspect it's because I still talk to our dad and also because of my partners mental health diagnosis).
I'd love to adopt or foster.
Absolutely I would too, but there will be heavy research and planning before I go through with it down the line. There has to be, I’d be taking another human being under my wing
