So, I have autism and also very bad social anxiety, so I don't have a massive amount of social interactions, so it is easy for me to remember pretty much all of them. This also means that I spend way too much time obsessing over any significant interactions I have, particularly negative ones, which then just make me feel more upset and anxious than I was at the time and sometimes leads to a breakdown. I am also completely unable to deal with conflict

For whatever reason this website, unlike the original subreddit is way more invested in dunking on each other imo. This site has a very hostile atmosphere where it feels like everyone is constantly at each others throats and it makes me just not want to come here at all.

I also want to take exception to some of the recent posts by @TransComrade69 about the Beyond Pink or Blue book, particularly the part in the original post about it only being like 170 pages, so you could read it in like 3 days, so if you don't, it is reactionary. No, one of the symptoms of autism is executive function issues, which I suffer from quite significantly. I could read that book, but it would require me using a lot of energy and necessetitate me neglecting other parts of my life. I struggle hard enough to read books necessary for classes, if I were to try and read that book, it would take months, if not over a year for me to complete it. So, while I understand why @TransComrade69 wants people to read the book and is pushing it, as I am sure there is lots of valuable information within it, I do not at all appreciate the tone that was taken in parts of the original post.

Anyway, I've deleted this account twice already, and I'm doing it for the 3rd and probably final time after this. Social media in general is bad for a lot of these things, but this site kind of takes it to another level.

            • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]
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              4 years ago

              No, I was immediately sceptical of OP because they've said a bunch of terfy shit in the past and now they're coincidentally coming here to complain about a mod that happens to be trans. Considering we have been having problems with terfs, this whole 'narcissist' thing comes across as concern trolling as it's full of dog whistles and red flags.

              • CarlTheRedditor [he/him]
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                4 years ago

                All of this stinks of bad faith.

                Imagine seeing the TC69 callout and not immediately smelling bullshit. Jesus Christ, how often do we bombastically badger people about reading theory (or you're a :LIB:!) but the outspoken trans admin does it and suddenly it's ableism.

                  • Notaroboticfish [any]
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                    4 years ago

                    "I have autism and that makes reading through this book an issue, so I don't like being told that I'm a POS for not doing something that is easy for neurotypicals, but not for me"

                    "Fuck you, transphobe. You're just trying to come up with excuses"

                    Gee, I wonder how I got the sense that this place is hostile to ND people

                • Notaroboticfish [any]
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                  4 years ago

                  I don't post read theory stuff and generic read theory posts are generally significantly less hostile and aggressive in tone than the ones that were posted about Beyond Pink or Blue.

              • RedFoundry [he/him]
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                4 years ago

                OP's history has been deleted, and frankly I'm not taking anyone's word on any accusation, especially as you are now turning it on me for using the word "narcissist"

              • Notaroboticfish [any]
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                4 years ago

                I want to be absolutely clear that your comments were the impetus for this post and me leaving. Not the sole reason, but what pushed it over the edge.

                In that thread, I posted what were at most minor liberalisms, yet instead of trying to discuss anything, you just immediately went for dunks. And then in this thread, you just wholesale label me as a terf. It is particularly insulting because you even conceded what we were arguing to another user, but then continued arguing and debating it with me.

                Like, I don't care if you disagree and want to explain why, but the dunking and immediate assumptions of bad-faith (which you have continued throughout this thread) are what make this site unbearable for me

                • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]
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                  4 years ago

                  You were being terfy as fuck to me, deleted all your history and and now you're here calling out transcomrade69.

                  Fuck off TERF

                  • Notaroboticfish [any]
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                    4 years ago

                    I deleted all my comments and had a meltdown because you bullied the fuck out of me and are continuing to do so. Literally go fuck yourself