PLEASE FUCKING HELP ME I KEEP FALLING IN LOVE WITH BOYMODERS UNKOWINGLY AND THEN THEY COME OUT AS TRANS AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA WHY THE FUCK IS IT SIX NOW WHY AM I IN LOVE WITH EGGS

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  • MemesAreTheory [he/him, any]
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    4 years ago

    Is... Is it an expression for pre-transition women? Don't love that, but I'm not educated enough about trans spaces and terminology to know exactly how offensive it's supposed to be.

    • KobaCumTribute [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      Is it an expression for pre-transition women?

      "Boy mode" is the term for when one is actively presenting as male, either because one is still early on and HRT hasn't had effects that can't be hidden yet, or because one is socially obligated to present that way for some reason. Like even when I'd been on HRT for over a year I'd still go to the liquor store in boymode because I didn't want to have any issues with the gender marker on my ID, and I did that until I'd gotten that updated. I'll also add that "boy mode fail" is sometimes considered a milestone, which is getting correctly gendered by random strangers despite one's presentation.

      More generally, "boy mode" or "girl mode" is just the term for presenting as a particular gender and can be used by both trans masc and trans fem people for how they're presenting at any given time.