I have a crush on a woman who works at the Chinese restaurant in my town. She's older than me and I think she's beautiful and really my type. I feel like a creepy incel who's obsessed with asian women. I promise you I'm not, I like all women, really.

    • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]
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      4 years ago

      . I’ve heard of people who had intrusive thoughts about killing their families up to the point of them believing they were a serial killer without having ever so much as harmed any of them and it turns out they just had some intense OCD (not like it’s not a big deal, but it’s better than being a literal murderer).

      Been there and done that. But thanks, this is very eye opening.

      you’ve probably got plenty of sexism and racism in you too

      Yes I do and I'm trying to unlearn it.

        • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]
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          4 years ago

          I’m saying that in my experience with this vein of OCD stuff, becoming less bigoted doesn’t make the thoughts go away. It actually intensifies them.

          Oh for sure! Like I still have bad thoughts about seeing black people, then I have to remind myself who I am who there are and how much we have in common. I have a very racist family I came from, so that's where I learned it. Thanks!